First interviews are a lot like first dates: you want to reveal and learn enough to determine if there’s any attraction without giving information that could preclude a second meeting.

The comparison is apt.  When dating, you want to attract the emotional and physical affections of your companion; when interviewing, you seek the monetary and professional contributions of the company.

In either case, keep in mind you want a second meeting. Here are a few things to say that will help your cause in both situations:

“I’ve been a Widget Engineer with XYZ Corp for five years.”  Potential mates and employers look for the same thing – stability.  Revealing lengthy commitment shows you’re a professional and earn at least a livable wage.

“I run 10k races, too!” This power-packed phrase can – and should – be adapted to nearly any activity (as long as it’s true).  Revealing your active side is great, but sharing a common interest in an activity can be a bonding experience.  This can help you build rapport with that someone special or with a hiring manager.  Remember: activity shows you’re multi-faceted; rapport bonds.  The combination improves your chances at a second meeting.

“I love being a Widget Engineer.”  People who are happy on the job are typically happier overall.  For employers, happy workers are productive workers.  For dates, happy people are enjoyable people.  In both cases, professional passion works to your benefit.

And here are a few things to NOT reveal:

“I’m a Reagan Democrat.” Never talk politics or religion in your interview or on a first date.

“I wouldn’t do it that way, but if it works for you…”  Offering unsolicited advice will put you in the also-ran category.

“I was fired from my last job, got divorced and filed for bankruptcy.”  Dates and employers don’t like losers.  Hold off on revealing any of this until the second or third date.

“My shrink says…”  While many people see psychotherapists or other health-related professionals, it could be construed as a weakness– particularly when mentioned on the first meeting.

IN THE CARAVAN: Interviews are like first dates.  Know what to reveal – and not to reveal.

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